My wife, my two preschoolers, and I recently drove from Canon City, Colorado to Readstown, Wisconsin in a 4-door dodge neon. I am happy to report my children are still alive. Believe it or not this was one of the most enjoyable times Ive experienced in the past year. My family grew closer and I learned to experience joy in that most exasperating of questions, Are we there yet?

I learned that it is better to be creative than it is to be frustrated and angry. One of my boys would inquire of , Are we there yet?

I would answer, Yes, but only in our existential and ethereal lives. Which bought about 10 minutes of silence as they tried to figure out what Id just said. There was one point as we we are approaching Onowa, Iowa on our return trip at which I found myself wanting to use every expletive Id learned in my eight months as a correctional professional as well as wanting to try my hand at building a few. The boys were tired, loud, talkative, and only barely listening as I and my wife attempted to speak rationally to them about shutting their mouths..

So instead of blowing a diode and risking the safety of everybody in the car, I began to engage the boys in a question and answer session about what they loved about our vacation to date. Questions like, Duncan, what three things did you like most about spending measure with greatgrandpa Gayle? Within minutes, both boys we are chomping at the bit to answer the next question; I was back in control, and in the process learned a dazzling deal about the loves, goals, and thought processes of a three and a five year old. It turned into one of the highlights of the trip.

I learned that creativity and patience provide much more joy and control than loud volume, and intimidation. I learned that our family has a lot of sizeably effective things to share with each other if we take the time to get over being tired and allow even the youngest to have their say. I learned that I too, am not immune to threatening to pull this car over, right now! Finally, I learned it is imperative to pay attention when your son tells you hes got a yucky tummy and feels like throwing up.